My colleague was sharing with me about marriage and how it changes people, but this question came to my mind.
It is a must to get married?
There can be many reasons to get married; passing down your family surname down the generation, to have a balance family, bla bla bla. Have you ever realize that these reasons add stress to your life?
But instead, think what you can get from marriage; maturity.
I remember something told me this; if he has to choose 2 candidate for a key appointment holder and these are their background infomation:
Candidate 1: Aged 40, single w/o girlfriend
Candidate 2: Aged 40, married w 2 children
My friend would choose Candidate 2.
Why?
Candidate 2 have his family to support him, a place to fall back when he is unable to hold on, a place that can provide him with love and warmth. Even if he is under stress, he has someone to share. Emotionally wise, he has his wife to share with, and both of them can help out each other.
How about Candidate 1?
He is single, no one to share problems with, and emotionally might not be as stable as Candidate 2.
No doubt that Candidate 2 has family commitments and might not be able to put in as much effort as Candidate which has no commitments, it’s the level of maturity that they have.
Tell me, when you have a wife, wouldn’t you think of her, the family, and make mature decision? If you don’t she will leave you. It’s not the same case if you are single. You are on your whole, meaning you are pretty much thinking of yourself.
So peeps, before marriage come to your mind, please thinking how you can benefit him/her before thinking what you can gain from him/her.